A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said:
"Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 yr. old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together."
So the doctor said: 'Ok, and what do you want me to do?'
She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'
The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: "I think, I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too."
She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.
Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms."
The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!
'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be ok with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.
The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point. He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same!
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
Of Love & Multiple Choice Options
My social psychology lecturer was broaching the topic on 'Attractions' and he counted a case which he handled during marriage counseling. This involved a couple who have two young children. The couple started courtship since their secondary school days. They were each others' first love. Things progressed on till the day they gotten married and started their own family. One fine day, the husband shocked his wife by serving him the separation papers. She could not understand what went wrong, neither could she accept the fact that her husband wanted a divorce out of the blue. In a bid to save their marriage, they decided to seek the help of a marriage counselor.
After understanding the whole situation, my lecturer (who is a practicing psychologist and holds a doctorate) decided to speak to the couple separately and started by asking the husband why did he marry his wife. He replied honestly he doesn't know why but things progressed on and getting married was the most natural thing to do. My lecturer started asking if he loves his wife and he responded by saying he wasn't sure.
My lecturer pressed on for details and after pondering for a moment, the husband replied, saying "I'm not sure if she's the one for me." Shocked, my lecturer asked "What do you mean by you are not sure if she's the one for you when you are already married with two kids !?!" The man retorted by saying "How would I know if she's really the one for me when she's the only woman I have dated in the whole of my life?
Ridiculous as it may sound, this is what happens when you do not have options in life. You have no idea what is the best and neither will you know what you will like best. You have got to have multiple choice options and you eliminate what you do not like and choose what you like the most. Without the options, you may just blindly select the only option without much considerations. This was what my lecturer said and it got me thinking.
He continued by saying "I told his wife this, 'you husband needs multiple choice options before he knows if he really wants to be with you. If he decides to come back to you, will you accept him again?'"
If you were the wife, will you accept that husband again?
Subsequently, my lecturer mentioned that he has seen a few such cases and such cases are getting more common. He repeatedly mention the importance of having multiple options before deciding on the best option. He said "if A is not what you want, then choose B. If B is not you want, then eliminate it and select C. If C is not what you desire, then settle for D!"
However, he did not tell me what should I do if I decide that A is still the best after being together with B, C and D. Should I go back for A, or should I try finding an option E?
Sighs. Such is life. It continued to get me thinking for a loooooooong time.
And my chained of thoughts reminded me of a friend.
That friend of mine is in the midst of applying for a HDB flat and intends to wed just before she gets the keys to her flat. However, she wasn't feeling her happiest. I couldn't comprehend why she sounded depress even though she was preparing for a joyous occasion. It was only through a common friend of ours did I learn the truth; even though her husband-to-be was a nice person, she still misses her ex-boyfriend. She feels that she had stronger feelings for her ex-boyfriend and she might have loved him more (than her currant boyfriend). However, due to certain circumstances she wasn't able to be with her ex-boyfriend. Even though her husband-to-be was not the one she loves most, he was someone she could rely on and was comfortable with. He was someone who would make a good husband, giving her a sense of secure.
Like my mum used to say, 'the person you love most may not be the person you marry and that the person you marry may not be the person you love most'.
It makes me wonder, how many people actually marry the person they love most? Will I end up like my friend? Will I find happiness? Define happiness then.
Can someone/anyone/everyone comment on my post via my tagboard?
After understanding the whole situation, my lecturer (who is a practicing psychologist and holds a doctorate) decided to speak to the couple separately and started by asking the husband why did he marry his wife. He replied honestly he doesn't know why but things progressed on and getting married was the most natural thing to do. My lecturer started asking if he loves his wife and he responded by saying he wasn't sure.
My lecturer pressed on for details and after pondering for a moment, the husband replied, saying "I'm not sure if she's the one for me." Shocked, my lecturer asked "What do you mean by you are not sure if she's the one for you when you are already married with two kids !?!" The man retorted by saying "How would I know if she's really the one for me when she's the only woman I have dated in the whole of my life?
Ridiculous as it may sound, this is what happens when you do not have options in life. You have no idea what is the best and neither will you know what you will like best. You have got to have multiple choice options and you eliminate what you do not like and choose what you like the most. Without the options, you may just blindly select the only option without much considerations. This was what my lecturer said and it got me thinking.
He continued by saying "I told his wife this, 'you husband needs multiple choice options before he knows if he really wants to be with you. If he decides to come back to you, will you accept him again?'"
If you were the wife, will you accept that husband again?
Subsequently, my lecturer mentioned that he has seen a few such cases and such cases are getting more common. He repeatedly mention the importance of having multiple options before deciding on the best option. He said "if A is not what you want, then choose B. If B is not you want, then eliminate it and select C. If C is not what you desire, then settle for D!"
However, he did not tell me what should I do if I decide that A is still the best after being together with B, C and D. Should I go back for A, or should I try finding an option E?
Sighs. Such is life. It continued to get me thinking for a loooooooong time.
And my chained of thoughts reminded me of a friend.
That friend of mine is in the midst of applying for a HDB flat and intends to wed just before she gets the keys to her flat. However, she wasn't feeling her happiest. I couldn't comprehend why she sounded depress even though she was preparing for a joyous occasion. It was only through a common friend of ours did I learn the truth; even though her husband-to-be was a nice person, she still misses her ex-boyfriend. She feels that she had stronger feelings for her ex-boyfriend and she might have loved him more (than her currant boyfriend). However, due to certain circumstances she wasn't able to be with her ex-boyfriend. Even though her husband-to-be was not the one she loves most, he was someone she could rely on and was comfortable with. He was someone who would make a good husband, giving her a sense of secure.
Like my mum used to say, 'the person you love most may not be the person you marry and that the person you marry may not be the person you love most'.
It makes me wonder, how many people actually marry the person they love most? Will I end up like my friend? Will I find happiness? Define happiness then.
Can someone/anyone/everyone comment on my post via my tagboard?
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Vanish
I always find myself in crappish situations. I wonder if everyone else is like that, or is it just me. At times, I feel trapped and often, I feel guilty. I wish that I can just disappear at click of my fingers.
Friday, September 11, 2009
Why You Shouldn't Add Your Mum on FB
This is how scary an E-Mom can be!
Facebook, Twitter Revolutionizing How Parents Stalk Their College-Aged Kids
Facebook, Twitter Revolutionizing How Parents Stalk Their College-Aged Kids
Friday, September 4, 2009
I Love My Folks
I have always been proud and thankful for my parents, even though I rarely mention it.
I am thankful that my parents are supportive of me caring for the strays. In fact, they are the ones who go feed the strays in my estate (they practice responsible feeding) and inform me if any of the strays look or injured. On top of that, my parents pay for almost all of the bills that the strays incur during visits to the vet.
On rare chances, I will bring home the injured strays and nurse them (though this may prove to be a challenge now as there are way too many furries residing in my house right now). Even though my parents do not really fancy that idea, they still bore with me and the incessant noise the strays make.
Never once did they blame me for giving them so much 'value-added' problems or tell me to 'leave the strays alone/abandon them'. Neither did they scold me for spending so much time at the vets or petrol transporting the strays.
When I showed them pictures of abused animals or incidents where strays were involved in accidents, they will sympathise with the strays and give comments like "How can one be so cruel?". At times, they will even donate money for medical fundings even though my parents may be worrying about the increasing household expenses.
These are my parents; kind and compassionate with a big heart for the less advantage to both humans or animals. I am happy to inherit such good traits and learn such good acts of kindness from them. This is definately something I expect my partner to possess, and my kids to inherit.
I am thankful that my parents are supportive of me caring for the strays. In fact, they are the ones who go feed the strays in my estate (they practice responsible feeding) and inform me if any of the strays look or injured. On top of that, my parents pay for almost all of the bills that the strays incur during visits to the vet.
On rare chances, I will bring home the injured strays and nurse them (though this may prove to be a challenge now as there are way too many furries residing in my house right now). Even though my parents do not really fancy that idea, they still bore with me and the incessant noise the strays make.
Never once did they blame me for giving them so much 'value-added' problems or tell me to 'leave the strays alone/abandon them'. Neither did they scold me for spending so much time at the vets or petrol transporting the strays.
When I showed them pictures of abused animals or incidents where strays were involved in accidents, they will sympathise with the strays and give comments like "How can one be so cruel?". At times, they will even donate money for medical fundings even though my parents may be worrying about the increasing household expenses.
These are my parents; kind and compassionate with a big heart for the less advantage to both humans or animals. I am happy to inherit such good traits and learn such good acts of kindness from them. This is definately something I expect my partner to possess, and my kids to inherit.
Thursday, September 3, 2009
That's Life
I know it's been eeeeeeeeeeeon years since I last updated.
Yours truly was very very very sick since Friday. Even though my fever subsided after taking two (strong) doses of antibiotics, I continued to feel feeble and weak. Most of the time, I was just sleeping. I barely had much appetite to eat. I finally took a rest from school, though it isn't the best reason to skip school. Even now, I get tired easily. I hope it isn't a case of the recurring viral infection from Bronchitis.
On a side note, I'm very sick of studying, reading journals and writing reports. I never, in the whole of my life, read and wrote so much. I read so much and so often that at times, I just habitually read without absorbing, until after a page later. Then, I have to re-read etc. When I first started studying, I pretty much enjoy it. However, after all the sheer mugging that rob me of my life and pleasure, I'm started to get quite sick of it.
I have the sudden urge to just quit school and set up a petshop business; selling pets supplies to consumers, feeding my strays pet food at cost price, bringing my furries to work, driving my own company's van with my furries pix, dedicating my life to my furries, doing what I truly love and blogging about the life that would be the envy of many.
Oh well, dreams and realities are worlds apart. I know.
*Slaps*
Back to reading journals, writing reports, cracking my brain, killing brain cells .............. ya da ya da ya da .......... and the story goes on ......
Yours truly was very very very sick since Friday. Even though my fever subsided after taking two (strong) doses of antibiotics, I continued to feel feeble and weak. Most of the time, I was just sleeping. I barely had much appetite to eat. I finally took a rest from school, though it isn't the best reason to skip school. Even now, I get tired easily. I hope it isn't a case of the recurring viral infection from Bronchitis.
On a side note, I'm very sick of studying, reading journals and writing reports. I never, in the whole of my life, read and wrote so much. I read so much and so often that at times, I just habitually read without absorbing, until after a page later. Then, I have to re-read etc. When I first started studying, I pretty much enjoy it. However, after all the sheer mugging that rob me of my life and pleasure, I'm started to get quite sick of it.
I have the sudden urge to just quit school and set up a petshop business; selling pets supplies to consumers, feeding my strays pet food at cost price, bringing my furries to work, driving my own company's van with my furries pix, dedicating my life to my furries, doing what I truly love and blogging about the life that would be the envy of many.
Oh well, dreams and realities are worlds apart. I know.
*Slaps*
Back to reading journals, writing reports, cracking my brain, killing brain cells .............. ya da ya da ya da .......... and the story goes on ......
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